The Art of Listening:
How to Listen First So Your Child Can Listen to You
“Nobody listens to me!”
Everyone has experienced the feelings of frustration, sadness, or isolation attached to these words. It is a discouraging and lonely place to be. Shouting doesn’t seem to work, and neither does withdrawing. Nothing changes.
You learn more about listening, being heard, and the power of connection to help defuse and process difficult feelings.
In this class, you will get valuable insights and information that will change the way you give and receive the gift of being listened to. And the surprising thing is, when you become a better listener yourself, others feel more connected to you, and are more likely to be open to hearing what you have to say.
We will cover:
- Why listening is important.
- Listening as a skill, whether inborn or learned.
- How big feelings can trigger a “Fight or Flight” response.
- The mechanics of responding instead of reacting, and how your listening helps your child to self-regulate.
- Guidelines for listening to children..
- How someone listening to you helps you to be a better listener.
- Showing compassion to yourself as well as your child through listening.
I hear you, because I have been in your shoes. Being a parent encouraged me to study and ask questions, and what I learned has helped to make my life and my family’s life more peaceful. As adults now, we share a warm connection which I know developed in part because I learned to listen well. I’m looking forward to sharing both information and inspiration with you. Let’s continue this journey together.
About Lesley Iwinski, M.D.
Lesley is a retired family physician and mother of three. She lives her faith through her devotion to parents, empowering them to create more peaceful, happy families.
A "Redirecting Children's Behavior” Instructor since 2004, Lesley loves seeing parents’ faces light up when they experience “Aha!” moments. She shares their relief and excitement when they describe how with a new approach, they transformed a troublesome situation into a moment of learning and connection.
As a physician, Lesley firmly believes physical and emotional health are influenced by the well-being of close relationships. Being a guide for parents provides them the opportunity to not only create physically healthy but also emotionally healthy families. “All the things I learned-- first through my experiences with my own family, and then through teaching parenting-- were the things I wanted to share with each one of my patients when I was in practice.” Although retired from medical practice, she is still teaching good medicine in a unique way.
Lesley lives with her husband of 35 years, Chip. Their daughters are married and their son will soon graduate from college. They share their home with Chip’s mother Alice, and a Labrador named Blue.
Relationships with friends and family are Lesley’s joy, and she loves spending time with them. Reading, exercising, being outdoors, knitting and writing are a few of her other interests.
Website: Growing Peaceful Families
Phone number: 859-333-3053
Email: [email protected]
StartModule 1: Why Should I Listen? (10:54)
StartModule 2: Good Listeners...Born or Made? (9:09)
StartModule 3: Such Big, Scary Feelings (9:51)
StartModel 4: Respond: Act Instead of React! (7:46)
StartModule 5 What is Your "Listening Quotient? (8:45)
StartModule 6: But My Child Won't Listen to Me! (10:10)